“If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” – Mary Engelbreit
Managing change can be really tough, especially when you are trying to juggle work, family, and personal issues all at once. Just when you think you are getting used to a routine, something in your schedule switches. Nobody really likes their day changed up. You wake up in the morning and have an agenda of all the things you want to accomplish. And life just happens.
It’s what you choose to do with your circumstance that makes the difference. The fact of the matter is that change is inevitable. Time marches on whether you are conscious of change or not. What you see around you only appears to be a constant in our lives, but in fact there are changes happening every moment.
Do you fear change?
Change is a funny thing. You may want to make an improvement in your life but something stops you dead in your tracks. It’s called “fear.” Fear can disguise itself in many ways, the biggest being a battle to see or do things in a new way. The key is that the desire to change far outweighs the need to continue the habit.
Change can happen in of two ways. First, you can make a decision to change a thought or behavior because something no longer works in your life. This is when you begin to have signs that you can’t ignore that something different has to happen. The more you become aware of something you want to change, you begin to see signs you can’t ignore.
The other reason people make changes are because they have to. In other words, you have only two choices: you change or know there are consequences about to happen if you don’t. It’s when you have ignored or pressed through all the warning signs that something wasn’t working.
Learn to dance with change rather than resist it.
How can a disaster actually be an opportunity? When you get tragic news, the first instinct is to fix it. Problems don’t always fit into a mold and have a clear cut solution. When a tragedy hits your flight or fight system kicks takes over and it’s difficult to see the issue clearly. Give yourself room to breathe and connect with those you trust. This can be a buffer to help you clearly see options for change
The harder you attach yourself and try to control the situation, the more difficult it is to see your answer. Your life may have just opened up for a new opportunity that may be bigger and better that before. Dancing with change rather than resisting it relieves stress and self-imposed pressure. Letting go and allowing the process of change to unfold can birth a new chance.
“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” – Alan Watts
Bracing for the worst to happen.
Years ago there was a popular book called “Worst Case Scenario Survival Handbook.” Your mission was to out-survive your opponent. Many people embrace this philosophy, so a plan can be devised to deal with change in front of you. While this may work for some people, use caution in this approach. This can trigger worrying about what could happen. Instead, allow the fallout to clear before creating a path for change.
Taking charge and managing change allows you to feel empowered during transition. However, you can truly benefit from shifting how you look at the situation and getting the support to see you to the next level.