The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance. –Alan Watts
New Years Day is just around the corner. For most people, it triggers thoughts about a change in habits, such as weight loss or quitting smoking. Usually, ideas get stirred up about what people want to be different in their lives. The idea that life could transform sparks the passion for change.
Change is inevitable. Time moves forward whether you are conscious of it or not. What we see around us only appears to be a constant in our lives, but in fact there are changes happening every moment. Change is a double-edged sword. You may want to make an improvement but something stops you dead in your tracks. It’s called fear. Fear can disguise itself in many ways, the biggest being a battle to see or do things in a new way. The key is that the desire to change far outweighs the need to continue the habit. When I quit smoking nearly five years ago I made the decision to quit. I wrote down a list of reasons why I no longer wanted to smoke. I wanted to breathe. I was tired of smelling like smoke. I wanted to get rid of my nagging cough. I wanted to save money. And, it was my father’s last wish for me. He suffered so much from smoking and I saw what the effects did to his quality of life.
Change can happen in of two ways. First you can make a decision to change a thought or behavior because something no longer works in your life. This is when you begin to have signs that you can’t ignore that something different has to happen. The more you become aware of something you want to change, you begin to see signs you can’t ignore.
The other reason people make changes are because they have to. In other words, you have only two choices; you change or know there are consequences about to happen if you don’t. This is when what seems like a 2 x4 has smacked you upside the head. It’s when you have ignored or pressed through all the warning signs that something wasn’t working.
Learn to dance with change rather than resist it.
I’ll be sharing my upcoming health goals with you. What are you thinking about changing this New Years Day? Post below-I’d love to hear about them!
For over 25 years in the health care profession, Lisa Birnesser has studied stress relief techniques and have helped thousands of people reduce stress in their lives.Lisa specializes stress management coaching by helping people do what matters most every day.