“For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.”– Ralph Waldo Emerson
In order to handle anger, you may need to learn skills to manage your emotions differently. You'll need to get into a frame of mind that allows you to think before you act or speak. Dealing with a temper becomes easier when you have a cool disposition. If you don't learn skills to cope with your anger, you may destroy the relationships around you and cause potential physical and emotional harm to everyone, including yourself.
Anger serves an important purpose. It may even help us to get out of dangerous situations, but sometimes the threats are just perceived and anger is not an appropriate emotion. Anger itself is not the core problem here though. It may help you to try to feel less angry in some situations, but for the most part your goal should be to learn how to express yourself in a healthier way.
Here are some ways that will help you to keep a cool head:
1. Don't react immediately. Think about the situations that have gotten you into trouble in the past. You likely immediately reacted to the problem at hand with angry emotions. Whenever you're presented with a stressful situation, it's important withhold impulsive reactions. Think about what's really going on, and then decide how you really feel about everything.
2. Take Cool Down Time. You're not always in a situation where you can take as long as you want without a reaction. If you're feeling extremely angry, make sure you take a few moments of cool down time. Before you react, let the other person know you need space. Then give yourself at least a moment to get into the right mindset.
3. Don't worry about what others think. Sometimes you feel terrible about other people's opinions of you. When you get caught up in making everyone else happy, you end up forgetting about yourself. This is how your emotions can take control, but you can only put off taking care of yourself for so long.
4. Start Exercising. A daily exercise routine can help you to release energy and other emotions. If anger arises, you can also go out for a walk or play some sports as an outlet for that anger.
5. Don't Hold Grudges. Resentment only hurts you in the long run. Learn the art of forgiving and letting go. This will bring peace to you and the person you're holding a grudge against.
6. Practice Relaxation. Anger arises more often if you're tense and stressed. Study different relaxation techniques that will help you to unwind.
Some of these techniques include:
• Taking a Bath
• Deep Breathing
• Listening to Music
• Journal your feelings
7. Learn Healthy Anger Expression. The trick is not to completely ignore your anger, but to express it in a healthy way. After you have taken some cool down time, consider your words and talk about why you're feeling angry in a calm fashion.
Stuffing Your Anger
You may think that you have mastered your anger, but you might actually be suppressing your anger, which could end up making everything worse. It’s really important to know the difference,
When you suppress your anger it ends up stuffed deep inside and will come out in unhealthy ways. You could start to feel really stressed, you could get headaches, or you may even start to have problems with high blood pressure. Your mental health may begin to suffer as well. Suppressing anger has been known to contribute to depression.
There are many ways to learn how to deal with anger effectively. Expressing anger appropriately takes practice. If your anger has turned to rage, you might seek the help of a professional that can help you with anger management skills.