“Yesterday’s the past and tomorrow’s the future. Today is a gift which is why they call it the present.”–Bill Keane
It’s 6 am and the alarm rings. Some folks can pop out of bed, jump in the shower and go about the day. For others, everything seems to go wrong. You oversleep, miss breakfast, and try to keep the kids on target for school. You spill coffee on your best clothes and then get stuck in traffic. By the time you get to work, a stack of new work files are piled on top of your desk. You begin to feel the world is out to get you and are just stressed out. But what if you could start your day over at that very moment before you tackled those files?
What makes a bad day? Is it a number of little things that aggravate you or one big thing that pushes you over the edge? Put things into perspective. Losing your job and relationship in one week is totally different than what I described above. But it’s all about perspective and how you see the world.
You can start you day over at any time.
Yes, you can start over. Take a deep breath and realize there is not a committee of people conspiring for you to have a crappy day. How you respond to disappointment can make all the difference in the world. Bad days affect your motivation if you expect the next circumstance to be as bad as the last.
What to do when having a bad day
Be proactive. Say out loud, “I’m having a bad day” and get it out of your head. If you try to cheer yourself up before accepting that you are in a bad mood just sugar coats the situation. Release whatever funk you’re in and start again. The fact of the matter is you don’t have to wait until the alarm goes off tomorrow to change how you see today. Write down 5 things you are grateful for in your life. Really feel connected about what you are writing. Take charge of how you see your day.
Don’t add more to do. This is not the day to add more tasks than you can handle. It’s OK to say no to extra work tasks when you have the choice to do so. Give yourself a break. Being stressed can bring on exhaustion. Take care of yourself and stick to getting the basics done, including eating well and taking breaks.
Plan a mini vacation. This can be anywhere from doing a guided relaxations technique to the beach to planning a beach getaway for a weekend. Put a picture of the beach on a screensaver. Feel your mood start to lift when you are resting on the beach in the sun. Put as much detail to the situation as possible.
Check your thinking. Oftentimes, having a bad day means everything is going wrong. But it’s really how you are seeing the world though your bad day glasses. It’s just too easy to overlook the good things about your day when you are in a bad mood. Maybe it’s a sweet hug you received from your mate this morning. Or the smile and thanks you got from the person who served you coffee this morning. Try not to lump everything that has happened to you as crummy. There have to be positive things, too.
Don’t take it personally. This is so important to remember when having a not-so-stellar day. Like I said before, you were not on someone’s bad day committee list. Shift your thinking from being a victim to being in charge of your day. It’s not all about you. Give back to someone and watch your attitude change. You hold the key to turn around a bad day and starting over.
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